However I have moved 5 times in the past 2 years, this past January 28th (my dads 47th birthday) I moved into a house with my 2nd cousin (or something like that) and her house was up for sale, but I was desperate. While I was on spring break, the house sold. So I have until April 23rd to have everything out of the house.
When I first found out, Jason said, " Well Kaiti, you are just going to have to move in with me."
I responded with, "I don't know Jason, you know our parents will freak out"
"Well Kaiti, what other option do you have?"
"I don't know? I could move home."
Well my parents moved to a new house recently and because I was moved out they turned the extra bedroom in the basement in to an amazing den with, huge book shelfs and a desk. They use the closet in that room as storage for games and movies. My sister has a twin bed and a closet packed with clothes, shoes and bags (typical girl) and my brother is the same way, I honestly think he has just as much as me and Alex. When I called home to ask my parents, Jack was so excited, he said, "Kaiti, I just pushed all my clothes in the closet all the way over, we can MAKE your clothes fit in here. We can take down my Randy Moss and Tom Brady posters and put your dresser next to mine. You can sleep in my bed, I mean, I sleep on the couch most of the time anyway." I started crying, (because I'm ultra annoyingly emotional) honestly how much sweeter could this 12 year old kid be? Then my sister chimed in, "NO! KAITLIN WE COULD GET BUNK BEDS!" In the background I could here my parents sighing. One of the reasons I moved out of my parents house, was because my mom and I argued so much. I just wanted my freedom and they didn't want to just give it to me.
So, I decided that we could try this whole living together thing, and then Jason started getting nervous, we are honestly ridiculous.
Anyway, after several discussions, prayers and days/weeks of thinking about all the consequences we have decided to give it a try. He has a 1 bedroom right now and his lease is up in July, so we will get a 2 bedroom then. We have way too much stuff for this little place. We are trying to make it all fit for now and what doesn't I am taking out to my parents to put in the attic for now.
My parents are by NO means thrilled about the current situation, but they support whatever decisions I make and I think they really don't want me to come back. Alex will be gone in July for IU and they will just have Jack left, (the super easy kid).
What are your thoughts, feelings and opinions on living together before marriage?
3 comments:
Don't fret...cohabitation before marriage no longer has any bearing on divorce rates according to the National Center for Health Statistics.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/philip-n-cohen/cohabitation-divorce_b_496371.html
http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2010-03-02-cohabiting02_N.htm
While it wasn't a decision I ever made, my sister and her boyfriend have been happily living together for three years. My uncle and his wife lived together for five years before getting married. Didn't Joel and Jenn and Natalie and Aaron live together before they got hitched?
Do what feels right. If it doesn't work, you move out. It doesn't have to be drama if you don't make it drama, know what I mean?
I moved in with my boyfriend almost a year ago. We have found it to be a very valuable element to our relationship.
I think it depends on the relationship that you are in. BF & I dated over 2 years before we moved in together.
We are definitely happier than we ever were before cohabitation!
I think you should do what you feel comfortable with. Honestly for me and my current situation it was the best decision I've ever made. We learn more about each other and we have our days that we can't stand being in the same room as each other about various things but it is pushing us to work through our issues. The issues that we are working through are issues lots of couples divorce over so I'm glad we're getting it out of the way now.
I grew up with the same ideals as you did so it wasn't an easy choice to make but if you can get through it and learn about each other then you will form a bond and learn things about each other that will help you down the road in my opinion.
My best advise to you is to make the place both of yours and be comfortable about where you are. It's easy to give up a lot to move into someone else's space. Don't be afraid to talk about the money stuff either. It's fine at first if one person pays more than the other but it could cause issues down the road.
Good luck :)
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